I remember back in the day, a relative of mine, every birthday I had would say, "I was married by the time I was such and such age...," then each additional year it was... "I was married and had 1 kid..." then on and on until it was 5 kids. Then one day she asked me what she could do to help me. She wasn't the only one who said these kind of things, lots of loved ones did, church members, people I hardly knew... People were always saying things like that. One lady told me I'd be "a good mommy in heaven... someday." I have to admit that comments like that used to cripple me. I struggled with it. I saw that people saw my value as whether I was married or not married. So, for a long time that's how I based how I valued myself. I may have graduated from college, run a $1.5 million shoe dept., played the piano for someone amazing, been the musical director at a children's theater, become an interior designer, etc... What did any of that matter? I wasn't a wife or a mom.
Well, life has moved forward. I opened my own business, I've taught over 50 students how to play the piano, and as time has moved forward, I found me. I may not be a wife or a mom, yet, but there's so much more than that. Becoming a wife and a mom are still my ultimate goal, and what I want more than anything.
I'm a daughter of Heavenly Father. I'm a daughter of Sandy and Colleen Nicholes. I'm the sister of Collin, and sister-in-law of Krystal. I am so lucky to get to be the aunt to three amazing nephews, and one amazing niece! I'm a granddaughter, a niece, a cousin. I'm an interior designer. I'm a piano teacher. I'm a musician. I'm an artist. I'm creative. I'm a leader. I love people. I'm a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I love children. I love to serve. I'm a business owner. I'm a woman. I'm a woman of faith. I'm a learner. I'm a reader. I'm a teacher.
So, the answer to her question is yes I want to get married. Apparently, it's not in my control and it's not in my timing, but when it's right it will happen.
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Pyper....I love this so much! I went through a lot of those same remarks! I am proud of you being able to turn your thoughts into such wonderful achievments and blessings! You are an remarkable young lady and are a blessing in many people's lives! There is a plan for all of us and no one can say that one is better than the other! They are all important and loving yourself will help you to love others and you are such a great person to be around! I love you girl....you are a special cousin to me! Love you
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