As any of you few readers, that read this know, I sometimes use this as an outlet to share weird situations I run into in this delightful singles world. Well, I'm just going to get a little something out there, and then it'll all be good!
I got an email from a guy I went on 2 dates, count that 2 a long time ago, probably 14 months ago, or so. I've posted previously about that experience. Anyways, it was just a friendly "hello, what have you been up to" email, ---> I have to say that when my brother was on his mission, he had a certain girl that loved him and was waiting for him, and did a study abroad thing right near his mission, hoping to get a chance to see him... Anyways, she wrote to him all of the time. He said that her letters wore him out. Well, I get that way often! If someone is just rambling or if they're constantly texting, oh my gosh, I have things to do... Okay, so that's not the case when I'm really into someone, but when I'm not... <--- font="">Okay back to the story. The emails were coming, more like instant messages, but that's another thing... I don't mark myself online for the above mentioned reason. Then he says he has something he wants to show me, and proceeds to tell me, and tells me it reminded him of something I had said once. I thought it was funny that he even remembered something so small, and told him so. He said, "well, you were the only girl I dated that had ever said anything like that, so it stood out."
So, that's where my question of the night comes from. When does a date or two turn into actually dating? According to me, one, two, maybe three dates in is just "going on dates" not "dating." It's still the process of figuring out if I want to actually "date" the person. By the fourth date, yep, I'd say we're dating, but those initial dates not really.
I know some guys who think that just asking someone out means that they're stuck having to date the girl. I don't know where that idea comes from. Are they over thinking? Have they run into lots of over-bearing, over-anxious women? I don't know. Probably, both. I saw on a girls blog that we singles need to have faith, and faith without works is dead, so when the plan is to have an eternal family, but you don't go on dates, then how's that going to happen.
I saw on a guys blog something about being Mr. Nice Guy, and it doesn't work for the nice guys. He said that the girl saying, "You're nice, but..." is not the best way to put it. It's hurtful and mean, but he doesn't think that they intentionally are trying to be mean, but it is. So interesting to see these different perspectives coming out. I think the "you're nice, but..." in the guy world, is the same as me having to be every guys best buddy. It's nice to have friends, but really there needs to be more.
Speaking of being someone's buddy, which in this case I'm totally fine with. I love when I get texts asking about other girls. You know, if I'm friends with the girl that's one thing. When I hardly know the girl... Let's just say, I am NOT a wingman! Seriously! It was something to help with an engagement a month or so ago, but that was a one time deal, and I'm not in the business of setting you up or giving you insights into getting that special girl!
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