So, I've been working part-time for a week and a half. Gotta say I've made some discoveries about myself. I've thought I'm a pretty feminine girl, but I do a lot of stuff, and I would never say I was prissy or anything. Yep, I have my moments of not wanting to get all filthy and stuff, but I work through it and I'm fine. Well, for this part-time job, it's dirty, casual, and different then I expected. I've discovered that the second I get to my house from work, I'm taking off my clothes and running up the stairs to hop in the shower, because I can't wait for the second that I get to feel like a girl again. Weird, maybe... but I gotta say there is nothing better than having my hair done, make up on, and heading out the door in high heels! It's my favorite time of day! I am such a girl!
I've mentioned how I get random weird questions often, well last night, I had another one of those thrilling moments. Someone who is recently new to the mid-singles scene was talking to me about concerns she had with being there, and what's out there. Nothing new. Then she asked me if I was divorced or what, and I said I haven't been married, then she looked at me, and asked, "What's wrong with you?!" Wow! That wasn't a question I've heard much, and it caught me off guard. What am I supposed to say to that? I really don't know why I'm not married, other than that I know that I'm where I'm supposed to be, leading these mid-singles, and when the time comes, and it will come, I'll be ever so grateful for it, but I'll also be so grateful for the chance I've had to work with these amazing, interesting, and different sorts of people. I've certainly grown being able to do this!
In our stake, for ward conferences, we have a youth activity with each ward the tuesday or wednesday before their ward conference. The stake presidency runs the activity, and the stake young men and stake young women presidencies get to participate. It's a great way for the youth to get to know the stake leadership. This was my 3rd or 4th round of ward conferences, and my last one for at least a while as being a stake leader. This year they played "the game of life" that our stake president, I think, created. It takes you through the years of 18-33 when you make huge life decisions, but in the game each decision is based on a roll of the dice. For example, if you roll 1-3 you serve a mission, if you roll 4-6 you don't, etc. This happens for all life decisions... mission, college, tithing, marriage- temple or not, children, even salary. Some people roll these high numbers and in the end their income is really high. However, there is this other column on the spreadsheet that is for blessings, and it shows you how many blessings you receive. There are a couple times in the game where you get to pick an "opportunity" card. On these cards, it says something like, "pet runs away. -$100 +0 blessings" or "house fire. -$50,000 +15 blessings," etc. The kids get a kick out of it! As their income grows, they get to move higher up in the line to the soft seats, so there's constant motion. It's a little chaotic if you have rambunctious! So, when the opportunity comes to roll for marriage, every one usually gets married in the first couple of years. Every once in a while, there's one person who doesn't get the chance to get married for a long time. They roll and roll and roll, and it doesn't happen for a long time. A couple of times it was a young women leader that wasn't getting married. So, as they weren't getting married, they were whiny and complaining, and talking about what a loser they were and that there for sure won't be anyone left for them to marry, and they'll have to settle for some loser... Okay, this was all a game, and they are married in real life. Granted they were thinking they were hilarious. Let's take out that I'm single, and just think about how the way that behavior affected their young women. Not all of them are going to be getting married right after highschool or right after their missions or college or maybe ever. They will remember all of those comments as they deal with that part of their lives. Just one of my pet peeves! Like when someone says, "I made all of the right choices and did my personal progress, and got my medalion, and that's why I was able to get married." Really?! I think that all of those things are great! The personal progress program is amazing! It strengthens you and trains you! However, having done those things, I can say that they're not the "reason" someone gets married. I hope that as I've been able to serve in young womens for a few years that those young women have seen me, and see that it's okay to go at whatever pace the Lord has intended for you, and that you can be okay if you don't get married right away.
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