Really!?

So, I have two confessions:  1.  I secretly want to own a bakery.  2.  I secretly want to be a motivational speaker.  The first one is probably not that big of a secret, since I love baking, and any chance I get, I take advantage of it.  The second one, I would imagine is a secret and probably a surprise, seeing as how I don't do much talking as it is.  I rarely have chances to speak, and when I do, I stress for forever about it beforehand.  However, when I'm up there, and actually speaking, I find I quite enjoy it. 

So, I'm not going to go on about a business plan for owning a bakery, but I am going to discuss this motivational speaker idea.

This thought came to me sometime since Grandma died, so in the last 14 months.  I've observed midsingle women, and how they act, and just want to tell them how wonderful they really are, and give them a boost of self confidence. I want them to see how Heavenly Father sees them, and get past how they see themselves. I want to point out the things I see them doing, that aren't doing them any favors.  Now, in my circumstances, obviously I don't have the answers, at least I don't have the answers for me.  I'm not saying any of this, for people to feel sorry for me or to have people ask "what can I do to help you get married," that approach doesn't work and makes things worse.  Who wants to be a midsingle?  I want to be a wife and a mom more than anything in the world.  It's not my timing that matters, it's the Lord's timing that matters.

I have the opportunity to be a leader of an LDS midsingles organization.  Being the leader is challenging, fun and sometimes hard.  For whatever reason, people think they can come to me, and I'll have all of the answers to make their dating lives better.  Hello, I'm in the same circumstance, I don't have the answers, or I wouldn't be in the same circumstance.  It's made me feel inadequate, that I don't have any answers or suggestions for them. 

There are many situations and stories that I've been told, and I'm going to share some of them. I'm omitting any names to protect the innocent :)  I hope no one is offended by me sharing their stories.

There's the let's go get a frozen yogurt, because you're not worth me spending an extra $15 and actually taking you to dinner.

 

Picture Joe Jr. from While You Were Sleeping.  Ick!  Here is this guy that thinks he's pretty dang cool, not catching on at all that she's not interested, no matter what she says, he's still pretty certain there's something wonderful going on.

Another version of Joe Jr.:  "You know Pops would knock the rent down; I could move in with you."  Someone who says, "Let's go to the park first, and depending on how that goes, I might buy you dinner."
 

Then, there's the guy that talks your ear off for forever, and you can tell is missing a few things up stairs, and asks, "Aren't you going to ask me for my number?"  Hello!  If you want her to talk to you on the phone, ask for hers!  Then, followed up by telling her friends, unknown to him, that she's not his type, but would be great for networking, to introduce him to her cute roommates.

Then we have this guy, "You're pretty, but I'm not gonna lie, I don't like weight on anyone... Especially me."  Would you look at that guy?  Of course he's funny, but really?!

Then we have the guy with the Gaston complex!  Thinks he's everyone's gift, and loves going out with a different girl every night.  Hello, do you have any depth to you at all? 

Then we have Mr. Darcy.  Mr. Darcy appears to be the cream of the crop, a little stand offish to some, but a charmer when he wants.  He needs to humble himself, take the pride down a notch or two.  Remember the scene where he's telling Elizabeth he loves her; he loves her against his better judgement.  He just keeps rambling, digging himself into a deeper hole, wounding her pride (what little she had, in real life.  Not that the midsingles' version of Mr. Darcy is professing love to anyone, he just gives excuses.)

These are just a small portion of the stories I've heard or experienced. I don't know why I've been called to lead the midsingles, I do know that this is where Heavenly Father wants me to be, and hopefully, with time, obviously not my time, I'll know why, and have a better picture.  Until then, I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing.  Thanks for reading my rantings!