Last night I had a meeting with the committee heads of the midsingles program.  We were talking about our spring conference.  I was talking about how I want a workshop that is based on identifying yourself.  Last time, I had Matt Townsend come and speak.  He talked about it doesn't matter WHAT you are, it's WHO you are.  I thought it was a great message.  It wasn't anything new, it was something that people needed, though.  A great reminder!

My reason behind this is that I've been sad with the way some people identify themselves.  One older guy at an activity introduced himself as (names will be changed, not that anyone knows him, I don't think I'd know him if I saw him, again.)  "Hi, I'm Rob, I'm unemployed and live at his parents house, too," pointing towards the guy next to him.  Others are like, "Hi, I'm Vanessa, I'm divorced."  Yes, these are things that are a part of you, but they AREN'T you!  You are a Daughter or a Son of God!  That's your divine identity!  Believe it!  Live it! 

However, all that being said, I identify myself as "Hi, I'm Pyper.  I have severe trust issues."  I can't wait for the day, that someone comes along that helps me overcome that!  Well, I've had someone like that before, but, well...  yep, I need to work on that.  I know that people can't make you one way or the other, you LET yourself be affected.  It's just hard!  I deal well with lots of different kinds of people, and I LOVE people, but when disappointments come along, it just pushes me farther into that hole of not trusting.  Then, it takes a lot to get me back to trusting that person, and being able to really trust what seems to be happening, or trusting myself that I can really discern what is happening. 

I've been praying that I'll be able to discern things better, and I'm grateful for the answers to those prayers.  Hopefully, I can continue to better myself in that way!  Anyways, those are my thoughts for the day! 

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I have a secret...  I don't like the dating game.  I often wonder if it's as weird and hard for younger kids, in this day and age, as it is for mid-singles.  I know that when I was in highschool and college, dating was really enjoyable... of course there were funny, weird issues, but these days issues seems to be more frequent.

Actually, most of my dating experiences have been really good, I could say GREAT, in some cases!  The part I'm talking about being difficult is the in between time.  The "after the desicion to stop dating" or the time where you think someone might be into you, and you know you're interested, but the other person seems to have no idea that you are.  It's annoying! 

You sit there and weigh all of the different options... do you really want to stop dating?  If you've changed your mind, is it too late?  (Usually :))  How honest about your feelings should you be?  Do you take a risk?

Other things that are difficult... You see a guy that is obviously into your friend, but she's not seeming to notice.  Do you tell her?  Sometimes, I wish my friends would hint to the people I've been interested in, but of course there's a chance that would scare them away.  You see men being led on...  do you tell them?  This one is tricky, because a) guys think that it's jealousy, when I'm not, I just want to save them, or b) they just think I'm gossiping, and don't realize my intentions.

There you go!  I'm getting off my soapbox now!